Have you ever struggled with feeling all your feelings - you know...even the NEGATIVE ones? Hey, we all have them. We’re human. Having been in the personal development world for a hot minute, I’ve seen a consistent fear of leaders in the “positive thinking” space who were scared to feel ANYTHING but positivity, light, and happiness. Problem with that is this: YOU’RE HUMAN. Discover all your feelings and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
Hold it together. Stay strong.These are many words that have been uttered to me this past week, as my dad slipped from this life on Wednesday, after weeks of being in the hospital.Of course, as always, they were uttered with the best intentions.Honestly, though, I don’t feel very strong.I feel very raw and real and ripped open, and if that’s strength then rock on, I’m a freaking badass.It got me wondering, why as a society do we praise and pride ourselves on strength?And more, what fear is there in being vulnerable, raw, real, and stripped of all pretense?Just because I don’t feel strong NOW doesn’t mean I’m not strong, or won’t ever be strong. In fact, quite the opposite.As a human being, you are not bound to the emotion of strength.Discover your strength and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
It was two weeks ago, I was sitting at the kitchen table of our AirBnB, pulling document after document of proof of my income to show to the rental company for our new place. I even needed a letter from my accountant stating the growth of my company. FYI, Australia doesn’t mess around when it comes to proving you can pay your bills. As I was reviewing my numbers, it was then that it hit me… “Holy shit...I did it!” I leapt up from my chair and ran into Spike. “I did it!” We doubled our income this year. We doubled our profit this year. Discover your growth and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
Can you believe we are in DECEMBER? What? What time is it? What day is it? The fact that we are still here now in Australia, and have been since March, still dazzles me.It’s taken loads of courage, I can tell ya that.This year has been, for many, an emotional rollercoaster. So I just wanted to check in.How’s your energy these days?Your emotions are a powerful guidance tool to gauge your energy. Discover your energy and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
Expectations can be hard to manage, especially when you’re a high achiever.We tend to set the bar pretty darn high for how life/business/our bodies “should be.In the past, I’ve had this expectancy of what I “should” be making or “should” be doing around the holidays.So many shoulds.You should have turkey on Thanksgiving.You should sell on Black Friday.You should be making more money.There is a difference between living with expectations - having a belief that certain dreams and desires that you have will come true.And operating with expectancy - being in the STATE of anticipation.Manifest your dreams to reality and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
“I tears. I cry,” he whimpered to me with his puffy lower lip sticking out as he wiped away the two tear strains rolling down his cheek. “Everybody cries, baby. Mama cries. Daddy cries. Ma cries. Pa cries. It’s okay to cry,” I say to Declan, “It just shows that you care so deeply.” At that moment Declan mostly cared about not having Saline solution blown up his nose and having an ow-wow-wow. But a poignant lesson, nonetheless, no matter how small or big the problem may seem. Sometimes as positive-forward-thinking leaders we feel the pressure to always be “on,” meaning we always have to be positive and forward-thinking. Nonsense. You’re not an automoton. You’re human. Feelings hit. They happen. It’s natural and normal to feel feelings - all of them. And, yes, positive thinkers, that includes feeling sad, angry, peeved, frustrated, vengeful, rage, shame, guilt, fear, and the rest of the glorious spectrum of feelings that we have. When you suppress them, repress them or try to escape them, it only makes feelings WORSE. That’s when it comes down to a choice - a choice to hold onto them to bury them in a shit-pile of fear, shame, and guilt for being HUMAN in the first place!
It’s easy to slip into doubt and fear. Doubt and fear are normal, human emotions. Everyone, from plebeians to queen, has experienced it. A Queen, however, knows just how much weight Fear can toss and for how long, before she kicks that b*tch right back to where she belongs...in the minds of the mediocre. Fear will sit on your throne and rule your life if you let her, as she warps and rots your dream from the inside out, like an insipid virus. Her spies creep in through the catacombs of doubt, where the buried voices of those long gone echo. Her armies surround your gates, waiting, daring you to expand, to reach higher, to climb rather, to grow bigger, to go beyond where you are now. For at that moment you do, she is right there to push back.
