I do some of my best thinking from bed on my phone. No, I’m not scrolling or consuming. No, I’m not on Instagram or Facebook, looking at how many likes something I’ve shared has or hasn’t received, or waiting to be triggered by someone’s comment. I’ve trained my tool to be a vessel of creativity. Most of my blogs, posts and emails are written from bed on my phone. Discover your discipline and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
Wanna know the funny thing about showing up as your raw, real, most authentic self? It works. It pays. And it even gets nominated! This week we found out we’ve been nominated for the Best of the Best of the Erin Strayer Show, as my episode was one of the TOP DOWNLOADED EPISODES...in 3 years of the show! Discover your congruence and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
It's not perfect, this journey. There are moments worthy of puffy eyes, release, pain, struggle, triumph, challenge, championship, figuring it out, and all the above combined into the span of 90 seconds sometimes. But it is in those moments of crashing, burning, finding, releasing, allowing that allows for all the pieces to come together. Discover your resilience and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
One of my favorite bands of all time is Queen. When we temporarily relocated to Australia, Spike bought me a Freddy Mercury Funko doll (you know those tiny-body, giant-headed, fits in the palm of your hand toys) for my “office” area. Maybe it was the sunny-still vibe of another day in Queensland, or the butterflies flying past my windows, or my run past the building named “Rhapsody” in Surfer’s Paradise that morning, but in a moment of deep introspection, I spoke to my Freddy Funko. Look, I owned my crazy a long time ago, so this is not too out of the ordinary. I was looking for a connection. I believe everything happens FOR a reason, for our greater learning, growth, and evolution. So all of these things, all of these signs, I just could not ignore. “What is it about Freddy Mercury? About Queen? About Rhapsody?” I mused.
“You gotta want kids if you want to be with me.” He was 19 years older than me. In his first marriage, they had agreed not to have children. I was falling in love with him. I also knew I wanted kids. And I knew he would make a fantastic father. I wasn’t about to compromise on what I wanted. But, I was willing to walk away if I couldn’t have it all. So, I figured I’d come right out with it. Why beat around the bush, right? Yet, so often in our communication, we speak implicitly. We hint. We imply. We drop clues. But, come right out and say what you want and that you want it… To be totally and brutally honest, well that’s just brutal, right? Or is it or is it brutal to pretend you want something you don’t want, dance around the topic for years and then get your heart smashed because it didn’t happen. To me, the latter seems far more brutal with time, effort, and energy lost. It’s much easier to rip a bandaid off than to unstitch a gangrenous wound of implication. Being direct, candid, explicit with your communication allows not only you to know exactly where you stand and what you want, but others as well.
