523,600 minutes. The musical “Rent” has been playing on the backtrack of my mind since my dad died. Particularly the songs, “Without You” and “Seasons of Love” - probably more so the latter since Decky loves the song because it has numbers in it. 523,600 minutes. 523,000 moments so dear. 523,600 minutes, how do you measure a year? Each one of those 523,600 minutes is a moment to LOVE. Choose to love and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
Ever dropped the ball? Made a mistake? Fucked up? Of course, you have…you’re human. And if you haven’t...well then liar, liar pants on fire. It certainly doesn’t feel fun to be wrong, to make a mistake, to let someone down. But, there is this thing called life...and shit...well, it happens. The question is… What do you do about it after?Discover your learnings and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
Hold it together. Stay strong.These are many words that have been uttered to me this past week, as my dad slipped from this life on Wednesday, after weeks of being in the hospital.Of course, as always, they were uttered with the best intentions.Honestly, though, I don’t feel very strong.I feel very raw and real and ripped open, and if that’s strength then rock on, I’m a freaking badass.It got me wondering, why as a society do we praise and pride ourselves on strength?And more, what fear is there in being vulnerable, raw, real, and stripped of all pretense?Just because I don’t feel strong NOW doesn’t mean I’m not strong, or won’t ever be strong. In fact, quite the opposite.As a human being, you are not bound to the emotion of strength.Discover your strength and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
“You wanna grab coffee, sometime? I’d love to pick your brain.” Would you ever say that to a doctor? Or a therapist? Or a lawyer? “Hey, doc! I’ve got this thing going on in my stomach? You wanna grab coffee, sometimes? I’d love to pick your brain about what it could be.” No! You’d make an appointment, pay the bill, and go have the freaking doctor check out your issue. Yet, so often, I’ve seen service-based entrepreneurs, especially when we first start out and are hungry for clients, we allow ourselves to be deluded by the “pick your brain” verbal opt-in thinking that it’s going to lead to that person becoming a client. More often than not, I’ve seen the “pick your brain over coffee” really be - you doing the coaching, pouring your heart and soul out, and divulging your years of information and experience onto the table...for the price of a $5 cup of coffee. Ouch. If you’re lucky it’s an $8 venti with whip. But still, it ain’t your normal coaching rate. And, sadly, both of you get what you pay for.
“It feels wrong to charge money for my work right now,” my client said to me, trying to convince me of her position. If you ever want to see my enneagram-8 coach-mode come out, say something like this in a session with me, and I’m more than happy to go there. (It’s why my clients pay me.) “Let me ask you this, in a couple of weeks, do you think this situation will get better or worse?” She paused for a moment, “Worse.” “So what’s will be your excuse then about why you’re not charging for your services?” Discover why it’s not your job to decide whether the can or cannot “afford” your services. And it is certainly not your job to dictate how or if they “should” spend money on your products and services. Learn why, as a business owner, it is your responsibility to keep selling, so we keep our economy going on the blog now.
