Creation vs. Criticism, which is the one that really lights you up. It’s easy to read someone else’s work, or listen to someone else’s podcast and think, “I could do this better.” But are you? It’s easy to criticize. It’ takes courage to create. Discover how to kick criticism to the curb and create with courage on the blog.
Do you live for those precious morning hours? Do you love the smell of the crisp, fresh morning air when it’s still dark out? Or do you prefer the silence of the late evening hours, when all the world is asleep, but you, you’re still going? Discover the evolution of your own productivity style. Which will work better for you? Being an early bird or a night owl.
Ever had the belief that you couldn’t be ALL of yourself in your business? When I made the shift from Pilates into solely High-Performance Coaching, Pilates was like an ex-husband I didn’t want to talk about or have anyone know about. Discover how you could be holding yourself from calling in your dream clients by NOT owning ALL of who you are in your business.
Habits are the results of the thoughts you think, the feelings you feel, and most importantly, the BELIEF you have. While most coaches work on the “doing” habits of getting you to your goals, how often are you working on the habits of BEING? Being who you are creating yourself to be? Discover 3 questions to ask yourself to help you become more consistent with your DOING habits, by starting with the BEING.
“I don’t know,” my client said to me. My private clients know all too well that I NEVER accept that answer. Why? It blocks you off from knowing. It commands your subconscious mind to do exactly what you are commanding it to do - not know. It’s a statement that cuts you off from possibility. So how can you tap into that inner KNOWING? Learn how to build your trust back with your intuition, that KNOWING that’s never steered you wrong.
If you're DONE waiting in line for permission...If you're DONE apologizing for being too much...If you're DONE conforming to other people's conditioning and are ready to start setting a new standard for your life...then claim your reign, Queen! Tap into that inner knowing - you know the one that says you were #madeformore - and own ALL of your awesome self. Read now on the blog.
“You are so fearless. I just so admire what you did - I mean, just choosing to stay in Australia! That’s so brave. I see myself doing that.” I didn’t know what to say. I was wrapping up a session with one of my private clients and this was what she said. It was then that it hit me. People are watching. Discover how your life is a testimony for what’s possible and how you can live it as an example to serve others.
It’s the question most of my coaching clients dread… Clicking cocktail glasses and trying to confirm what you do onto a business card. Life coach? Kinda...I guess. Pilates instructor? Kinda. Guide to fulfillment? Okay. Fulfillment mentor? Sure. Unapologetic Mompreneur? Nah, that doesn’t go on a card, right? High-Performance Coach? Certified, hell yeah. But, none of that describes WHAT YOU DO? It doesn’t even describe who you are. Discover who you are and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
I was scared through all of it. And I did it anyway. Learn how to trust your body to know the difference between Fear that is mixed with excitement (meaning you know it’s leading you toward something new and great) and fear where it’s something that may not be aligned for you. Discover how to tell the difference.
Why is it that so many people struggle and suffer from shoulding themselves? Where they should be. What they should be doing. How much they should be making. Why they should be farther along by now. Here’s the thing, I’ve noticed with working for high achieving visionary leaders for the past 4 years now… The more you SHOULD yourself, the more you’re stuck in the SHOULD instead of enjoying what is. Discover how you can learn to enjoy the present moment and speed up your progress by kicking all the “should’s” to the curb.
Freedom. I’ve been meditating a lot on what it means to be free. What is freedom? Freedom is many things, and like every other word, it has very different meanings to every single person. For some, they feel freedom when they feel safe. For others, they feel freedom when they can make their own choices. Discover what freedom means for you and liberate your definition from plagiarized programming to have it be 100% uniquely yours.
Feeling the feels of scarcity these past few weeks? I have. We’ve been going for a BIG goal, like a massive leap goal and in the thick of it, I feel like...I...just...keep...miss-ing. The. be-at. It feels like frustration, anger, impatience, annoyance. And I’ve realized that I need to give myself permission to just freaking be in it. Like REALLY in it. Still working. But also fully surrendering.
This whole “money mindset” was never a thing that I had to focus on. When I wanted to make $1500 a week teaching Pilates, I made $1500 a week. I set the intention, did the work, achieved the result. It never occurred to me that there was a whole mindset around money. I never started thinking about my “money mindset” until I was $40,000 in debt with a fledgling hobbyist “business,” with one client at $100/month and no notion of a sales process back in 2016. I didn’t make the connection between what had made me successful before in past businesses, sales, and money. So I made it all about money. I thought about money all the time. I thought about all the ways I could make money. I journaled about money goals. I made it all about money. I counted every penny. I was vigilant with my spending. But still, no sales. No business. And I was still stuck on the struggle bus. The problem was I made it about MONEY.
I was working with my client who was struggling with people canceling their membership to his programs. “You know, Kim with the economy being what it is, I don’t blame them. I mean, I’ve been hunkering down, looking at my finances and looking where I can shave off a few dollars as well.” “Hmmm…” I said. He must have noticed my pause. “What do you mean…’hmm’?” He asked me. “Well, it’s just interesting. As my mentor, Eben Pagan says, ‘‘When you sell you meet yourself.’” “Hmmm, that is interesting,” he said. I could see his wheels spinning. First, let me be clear, there is nothing wrong with managing your expenses, being fiscally responsible, being aware of where your money is going, honoring the dollars you spend and the dollars that are given to you in your business. Period. Manifest your money beliefs into reality and tap into your reign. Click to read the full blogspiration.
Dad. It’s a word that packs a lot of meaning. Ask ten people and you’ll get ten different answers. For me “dad” means parks, BELIEF, addiction, shame, money, entrepreneurs, possibility, Faith, challenge, change, pain, joy, pride, hope, county fairs, success, failure, sacrifice, police cars, alcohol, screaming matches, forgiveness dolls, provider, numbing, generosity, escapism, creativity, potential. I grew up with an addict. It felt like I had four dads. And yet, amidst all the multiple personalities and transformations my dad has undergone, he’s managed to grow a business from measly to multi-million dollars a year with my mom. When I called halfway houses back in 2016, they were shocked that he could be such a high-functioning addict. “Truly remarkable!” one woman said.
By trying to be perceived as “perfect” that not only doesn’t sell, but it also doesn’t SERVE. For years we as a society have been fed this myth of perfection. It’s been shoved down our throats of these magical, completely unrealistic standards to hold ourselves too. And for high-achievers, whenever you fall short of this false fairytale, you vomit up the lies, the “should” the “supposed to’s” and the “have to’s” of someone else’s playbook beating yourself up that you aren’t “there yet.” Wherever “there” is...and usually, even you don’t even know. You just know what you DON’T want.
Since restrictions are slowly, systematically lifting in Australia three weeks ago, I have received exactly three massages. Yes, nearly a massage a week. Spoiled. Spoiled. Spoiled. And 100% okay with it. This past Sunday, when Hymy was working on my lower back and butt, she noticed something, something that I had never really paid attention to... As a former Pilates instructor, I know you’ve got a lot of muscles in your butt. You’ve got the big bad boys that everyone knows about - gluteus maximus, medius, and minimus. But then, underneath those, there are five other smaller muscles, like your piriformis, and obturator externus, and other funny-sounding Latin ones that make you sound like a smarty-pants when you say them. It’s these smaller, lesser-known muscles that sometimes get so tense you don’t even notice them anymore... ...Until you do
This isn’t just happening in America. This is a Civil Rights movement around the world. We popped up to Brisbane this weekend to visit our friends for wine-tasting and light tourism. (COVID restrictions have significantly been lifting in Australia - no one wears masks, nor have they ever, and now, you can eat at restaurants with less than 10 people, as well as host gatherings in your home with ten or fewer people. Only 100 deaths in the total country of 24 million people. They’re doing something right!0) As we were on the train, I heard three kids (I say kids, but they were in their twenties), talking about supporting the protest. “Protest,” I thought. And that’s when I heard them say they were going to support black lives matter. When we arrived in Brisbane I cannot tell you how pleased I was to experience the vibes of people awakening and standing for black lives matter together. We walked down streets holding the Aboriginal flag, with signs declaring “Black Lives Matter” and “Freedom and Equality for ALL”
Right now with everything going on with the greatest civil rights movement in the history of the US - 50 states standing for justice FOR black lives matter - it feels wrong to promote anything - my business included. Do I still believe it is your social responsibility to keep selling? 💯 percent. Do I still believe that it’s essential to our economy to keep our businesses going and growing right now if you have an online-based business? ….Especially now. 10000% yes. Do I still believe that by growing your business you will be able to make MORE of a difference by being able to donate more to causes to support people of color? Absolutely. Do I still believe that by growing your business, you will be able to make MORE of a difference by creating an extraordinary, diverse, anti-racist company culture, that teaches, preaches, and lives it’s company’s values of diversity, discovery, and acceptance? YAS! YAS! YAS! Do I still believe that by growing your business, you can HIRE more people of color? 100% YAAAAAAS QUEEN. But does it still feel wrong at this moment to talk about anything other than that black lives matter? For me, yes.
I wish I could say that I had the words these past few weeks. A shift has been needed in the world and in ourselves.
COVID gave us an opportunity to reflect on what’s most important to us. For some, it gave us a chance to align and reconnect with our families. For others, it brought into stark contrast our own escapist tactics and feelings that have been repressed or suppressed, waiting to be released “when the kids graduate.”
For some, it gave us a swift kick in the pants to pivot, realign our businesses, shift into miraculous overdrive with our productivity and creativity. And my revolutionaries - Meredith, Stuart, Kala - holy moly how proud I am of you for how you have pivoted and adapted your businesses and entire industries!!!
For others, it realigned TF out of us, to what we want, and to what the future holds for us and our industries. Is it even a business you want to be in? Is it even an industry that’s going to be around in five to ten years?
For myself, these past two months have connected me deeper into my spirituality and my relationship with God. It’s made my life a miracle - living in a land surrounded by surf and butterflies. It’s also brought into a crude light some darker patterns that needed to heal for me.
